You Can Only Say YES by Saying NO
Author: Liv Miyagawa
You Can Only Say ‘Yes’ by Saying ‘No’
You can only say yes by saying no. What do I mean by that?
You have a certain number of years, hours and minutes to live your life. What do you want those minutes that your life is composed of to be filled with? Loving time with your partner, time to play with your kids, time to chat with your friends, time to get successful in your career, time to make a contribution that benefits humanity, time for taking long walks on your own in the forest? Whatever it is that you value the most in your life that is what you want to spend your time on.
How can you fill your valuable time with the activities that you love doing? Only by prioritising those things and saying no to those other things that are not important to you but that keeps coming in your way.
Saying no is not only about saying no when friends and colleagues ask you to do things for them that you don’t feel like doing. You also have to learn to say no to yourself whenever you start to do something, perhaps out of habit, that is not valuable to you. Say no to bad habits. Say no to cleaning the house just because you think that others expect your house to be clean rather than because it gives you satisfaction to have a clean house. Say no to going to social events that you feel you are expected to take part in although you actually don’t like them. Say no to socialising with the people who drain you of energy.
By saying no you show that you value yourself and your life. If you are good at saying no, people will know that when they ask you for a favour and you say yes, this means that you actually want to do it, not just that you do it because you can’t say no. In this way, a yes from you becomes much more valuable.
Apart from activities that take up your time, it is also important to say no to other things that you don’t want in your life. For example, if you don’t want to be badly treated by others you have show them that you don’t accept that kind of behaviour. Similarly you may want to say no to unfairness, people who speak badly about others, bad language or violence. You can also say no jobs that you don’t like, foods that you dislike, ugly clothes, living in bad areas, certain TV programs etc. Say no to everything that you don’t want in your life and all the things that you DO want will take their place!
By setting up strong personal boundaries for what you want and what you don’t you are also being a role model for others. This is especially important to parents who want their children to get a high self-esteem. By showing others that you value yourself and that it is ok to do so you invite them to do the same.
Do you want to say yes to fun, happiness, love, beauty and respect? Say no to all the rest!
Visit www.livmiyagawa.com if you want to learn more about saying ‘no’ to create a life of self-esteem and success.
Liv Miyagawa – The Self-Esteem Coach
About the Author
Liv Miyagawa, The Self-Esteem Coach, helps people all over the world to raise their self-esteem and to reach their personal goals. She opens people’s eyes to their own strengths and helps them to figure out what it really is that they want to get out of life. Liv helps people to find out exactly what steps they need to take to reach their goals, and she supports them and motivates them on their journey towards a more fulfilling future.